You'd be amazed how life shows up to meet you when you commit to embodying yourself as presently as you're able.
You begin to laugh more, see better, hear well. These are things you do conceptually and philosophically with your consciousness. It need not require the associated body parts.
Understand what things are for and you will resent less and less.
You can give yourself over to Existence in the purest way possible: being how you is when it's relevant. As often as possible. Which is to say, all ways. The path of least resistance. Which includes you as a principle of what it is.
It's not that life stops denying you, it's that you stop insisting on the how and the now. You stop resisting so you do not experience resistance as a default state.
That's where "it" is at! It's called being present.
Melanin-having (like 80%), feminice (as in dope, not kind), cis-gender (this word's definition is questionable), queer-thinking (this word's origin is questioned), travel apt (I'm an Earthling first) and fashion forward (I dress myself) SSJW (Sarcastic Social Justice Warrior).
I'm your forebearers attainable unreality. *
* Existing despite other peoples BS circa conception.